Getting Kinky: How to Share Your Fetish or Fantasy…by Desire Resorts

Let’s be honest… Most everyone has some type of secret fantasy, fetish, or kinky desire. They have something in the back of their mind or even tucked in the back of their closet that they are just dying to share with their partner. But, bringing up the topic with your mate can be difficult. How do you go from “sexual fantasies” to “reality”? Below are 4 steps to introducing your partner to what really turns you on.

DESIRE RESORTS 4 STEPS TO FETISH SUCCESS

1) Fantasies are Normal

Before you discuss your desires with anyone else, you first must be comfortable with them yourself. You may well be your partner’s first introduction into the topic and as a result, you will be leading them. If you are comfortable, they will be comfortable. Besides, despite our often sexually repressive culture, everyone has something a bit “kinky” they would like to try. To be persuasive, get comfortable with your fantasy and accept it…then share it.

2) Communication

Sharing your secret sexual cravings with a special partner can increase trust and intimacy. It is a special, private piece of whom you are that you are giving to someone else. Highlight the fact that your partner is unique, special, and you desire to share the behavior as an intimate experience with them making it an almost irresistible offer.

3) Others are Enjoying It

Pretty much anything you are into has some coverage in movies, magazines, videos, etc. In any case, lightly expose your partner to a bit of that “culture”. Casually comment about an article you read or select a movie that features that type of fetish. Begin to expose them to positive representations of the activities you like as a sort of social proof. Individuals often choose to do what they see other people doing especially when those people enjoy it.

4) Start Small

When you introduce your partner to a fantasy or fetish, start SMALL. Don’t bring out the latex suit and full body harness, or the entire clown outfit, on the first night. Ease them into it with a small toy, handcuffs, etc., and then work your way up! Starting small allows your partner time to ease in, adjust and get comfortable, until you get to the whole fantasy.

 

Sharing your fetish or fantasy with a partner can be a positive and persuasive experience that you don’t have to keep quiet.  Desire Resorts offers the perfect environment to make you feel comfortable enough to enjoy your fetish no matter what it may be.  Don’t forget you want to ask calmly and confidently. Make your partner feel special and unique to share your desires. Show them positive examples of others enjoying what you like. Align the request with their self-image. Finally, start small and work your way up. Follow those steps…and you both will reach erotic ecstasy… only at Desire Resorts!