Why would you want to start swinging? There are so many possible answers to this question. For example, maybe you want to experience the pleasure of a shared sexual relationship, or maybe you want to spice up your sex life by fulfilling a fantasy, or maybe you are simply seeking a new encounter of the most pleasurable kind. Whatever the motive may be, there are a few things to consider before the adventure begins.
If and when you and your partner choose to engage in sexual activity with another couple, multiple couples or a single individual (threesome), it can bring that spark back to your relationship, making an otherwise ordinary sexy life extraordinary. However, it is important to keep in mind that swinging is for healthy relationships looking for a new dimension. Important note: if your relationship is not stable, or if either partner has trust issues, then swinging is not for you.
Now that you have had the “talk”, how do you want to swing? Swinger parties? Swinger resorts? Swinger cruises? The choice is yours depending on the level of excitement you are seeking, your budget and most importantly: your preferences. The sky is the limit when it comes to swinging options, you just have to know exactly what you are looking for. It is important to feel comfortable, in a sex positive environment with other like-minded couples. The options are endless so get out there and explore…
What are the ground rules for you and your partner? It is very important when you are new in the lifestyle to have open communication and set your own personal rules before indulging. Set boundaries or limits for what you “are” or “aren’t” willing to do, and how far you are willing to go. The swinger community has a code to keep things safe while experiencing the most erotic encounter of the most pleasurable kind. There is one golden rule: “no means no”.
Confidence is key. Be sure and introduce yourselves, remember, first impressions go a long way. Couples tend to gravitate towards other couples who show personality and confidence. In the lifestyle, the saying “walk the walk and play the part” applies 100%. It is acceptable in the swinger world to use another name and identity; nevertheless, always make sure you display your best to attract the quality of companionship you and your partner are seeking.
Whatever environment you choose, you and your couple are sure to enjoy the most amazing experience of your lives. It is important that as a couple you understand your desires and that you allow others to do the same. Do not hold your expectations of the lifestyle back, you must remain open at all times in order to make the most of the lifestyle.
If things seem to be going well, and you feel a comfortable chemistry in the air, now could be the perfect opportunity to invite them into the playroom, go light with something like “we are headed to the playroom if you would like to join us”, showing interest but not too much pressure. Too much pressure can be a turn off.
The swinger lifestyle should be exciting and fun for couples who are truly enjoying themselves. Desire Resorts & Desire Cruises offer lifestyle friendly options for couples who are looking to spice up their lives. If you are an experienced player or new to the game, we are sure that our couples-only atmosphere offers exactly what you are seeking.
Our clothing-optional areas, playrooms, nightclubs, daytime entertainment as well as erotic theme nights set the stage for the most incredible swinger experience in an atmosphere without inhibitions, where the possibilities are endless. Desire is proud to be fulfilling fantasies one couple at a time. It’s time to live not only exist! Are you ready for an experience that will take you beyond seduction?
Author: Angela Carignan